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New Book Announcement!
Tell Your Friends! I’m excited to announce my best book yet! Small Talk Rules represents my best tips from over 15 years of research and

You’re Probably Hiding Some of Your Best Small Talk Material
Mistakes, flaws, and gaffes, oh my! One of the reasons most people don’t embark on more social interactions is because they’re afraid of saying something

Are You Boring People?
Boring people react seriously and stoically to everything. Admittedly, I am not an excitable person by nature. That doesn’t mean I don’t possess just as many emotions as the next guy.
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The Best Conversationalists are Masters of This One Topic
Remember the elderly woman in those Frank’s RedHot ads? Her name is Jean Hamilton and she rose to fame for exclaiming, “I put that shit

Over-reacting is More Entertaining
Shane Dawson has made a killing just reacting on camera. He’s created a variety of YouTube content, but one theme persists through nearly everything he’s created: his reactions are entertaining.

The Silly Human Technique
Develop an eye for noticing subtleties in human behavior and appearance. Talk about the idiosyncrasies of the human condition.

You Need The Small Talk Mindset
Your expectations control your anxiety. If you’re always aiming for perfect, you’ll inevitably be disappointed when the conversation doesn’t go as planned. Over-analyzing every word

The 3 Stages of Initiating Small Talk
I love games. Some games, like tennis, require a few attempts to really get going. Small talk is similar. Don’t get discouraged if your first

The Best Lesson Ever From My Friend Gordon
In my twenties, I had a friend named Gordon. I worked next to him at the mortgage office. One day, I noticed a photo of
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