Contrasts are inherently engaging. Visual contrasts. Literary contrasts. Any kind of contrast. Humans are genetically programmed to notice anything conflicting or opposing.
Have you spent a lot of time and money trying to be more likable? You’ve probably already learned that the efforts spent on improving your appearance, reputation, accomplishments, social skills, etc. don’t automatically result in increased likability. Likability is based on something more fundamental.
Laugh at yourself first. Yep, that’s it. Sounds simple, but it’s very hard for many people. If you’re too insecure or uptight, you’ll have a hard time making anyone laugh (even Jimmy Fallon—and he laughs at everything). Real-life Example: Jack: Wow, that’s an awesome tattoo. Jill: Thanks, my husband George actually drew it for me. …